The 3 Loves in Your Lifetime Each for a specific reason

The 3 Loves in Your Lifetime Each for a specific reason

03 May, 2022 posted by Noah

The saying goes that everyone will fall in love with three different people at three different stages in their lives and therefore experience three different types of love. I have heard that saying many times, but I never paid much attention to it.

I was unaware of these three loves until I experienced them for myself. Three times may have been too many for you to count. Three relationships will likely stand out more often than others. The three that shaped who you are today will have the most significant impact on your life.

These are the three defining loves in your lifetime

The first love

An innocent, puppy-like love that bursts with the intensity and passion you only see in movies. It’ll probably happen when you’re young. Your first “real” relationship is perhaps something everyone is looking forward to. Every minute of the day is spent together. It feels like torture whenever you’re apart, and you’re counting down the minutes until you’re back together.

The first love
The first love

Relationships usually begin as friendships. Your brain couldn’t comprehend it because you fell in love so hard and fast. All you can think about is how excited you are. When you believe you have found your life partner, you feel as if you are in a fairytale.

Things seem to be getting worse as time goes by. Once romantic intensity has become tiresome and angry. Fighting is something you remember, but not what it was about. You feel like you’re pretending to be someone else because you don’t know what it’s like to be yourself anymore. There will be a fight over something silly the next day, only to make up.

Eventually, one of you becomes overwhelmed by the fights. Your relationship will end in tears and pain. Your heart will feel like it’s being ripped out of your chest. There’ll be no love in your life, and it’ll feel as if the world has ended. You promised that you would stay friends. Things don’t continuously work out the manner in which you expect they should. You listen to love songs, get drunk, and reconnect with friends to get over a breakup. You eventually get over it.

The Second Love

It is a love that has brought great pain, but it has also taught valuable lessons. One of the essential things it teaches you is about yourself.

The Second Love
The Second Love

Perhaps a mutual friend introduced you, or you met at a party. Everything started slowly for a reason. There are red flags now and then, but you ignore them because they seem like decent people, and you are ready for something worthy after the first love.

Probably this is the person you’ll move in with. There will be no other relationship as passionate, committed, and fulfilling as this one. This is the perfect relationship for you.

Passion disregards your logical mind, but that’s the problem with it. As time passes, you realize it wasn’t such a good idea to move in together. With everything you have to do, it might as well be that you live alone. Your earlier red flags are now more significant and waving right in front of your eyes. Your happiness has been compromised by settling and tolerating.

The lies and betrayal are apparent to you. Feeling underappreciated and worthless, you feel cheated. You feel like you’ve wasted your life on someone who doesn’t deserve one minute of your time.

You will end this relationship because you have finally learned what you want, what you deserve, and what you need. The love you experience here will make you want to take a break from loving others. Instead, begin to love yourself.

The Third Love

The Third Love
The Third Love

When love finds you when you aren’t looking for it, the wall that protects your little heart has been built as you become more comfortable in your skin.

There will be no wall between us and this love. The love that knocks on your door, no matter how long it takes for you to answer it, will keep on knocking.

Despite being drawn to this individual, you do not feel intoxicated by them. It goes beyond lust. There is something else to it than only romance. When you see how they carry themselves, the things they say, and their lives, you are attracted to them. Their positive energy captures your attention.

Even in your imperfections, they see the beauty. They won’t fool you into thinking you’re someone else. Since you fit together like a jigsaw puzzle, you do not have expectations of each other. They mean more to you than you did to your previous loves.

It’s like they compliment you in ways you could never have imagined, and you reciprocate in the same way. When love breaks all the rules, it is love that goes against everything we think love should feel like.

This is the love that teaches you how to feel love again. This is the love that will teach you how to give love back. Your life and your surroundings will become more appreciated because of this love. Lifelong love is what you’ll spend the rest of your days with

Regardless of how uncomfortable or painful it may be, your first and second loves will help you grow. Keep in mind that they’re preparing you for your third love, even though it may seem like they’ve taken years of your life.

The choices you to determine your destiny, and you are entirely in control of them. If the relationship seems like something from a romantic comedy, you can stick with it. You can stay with your second love because you’re comfortable with what’s happening.