What Ruins Valentine's Day (and Every Day)

What Ruins Valentine’s Day (and Every Day)

26 Apr, 2022 posted by Noah

Because they are a person, they want to be taken seriously

 The smell of flowers is pleasant. Symbolic gifts like flowers are excellent gifts to give to those you care about. It would be best if you didn’t buy flowers for someone who doesn’t like flowers or has an allergy to the one you chose.

 Most of the time, they’re excellent. It’s like eating Chocolate. And wearing jewelry and or drinking champagne and making reservations for the best restaurants.

 A gift is (usually) appreciated for two reasons:

What Ruins Valentine's Day (and Every Day)
What Ruins Valentine’s Day (and Every Day)

 1. Those gestures show that someone went above and beyond their routine to make another person feel loved and valued.

 2. Gifts by themselves often provide value to the recipients. Not every gift fits everyone. We don’t want to give Boston Red Sox fans a New York Yankees hat or adult men living in balmy Miami, Fla., child-size winter mittens. (Unless you’re being intentionally ironic, I am all aboard.)

 In the United States, businesses are legally required to accommodate people with physical disabilities. I am not sure how it works in other countries.

There are accessible parking spaces near entrances, wheelchair ramps, and extra-large bathroom stalls for wheelchair users.

 What’s the reason?

 Well, then. It’s the polite thing to do.

 Though I am not familiar with the experience of blind people, I would imagine they don’t spend a lot of time in art museums. Concerts are not likely to be a frequent destination for deaf people. In my experience, most people who don’t know how to swim don’t spend much time competing in swimming events. It’s hard to imagine that people without arms work as hairdressers. Beekeepers are unlikely to suffer from deadly bee sting allergies.

 The fantastic thing is that these same principles apply to EVERYONE we meet in life, no matter how obvious they may seem.

 Indeed, not all people’s ‘conditions,’ ‘handicaps,’ or ‘shortcomings’ will be as readily apparent to others as blindness and wheelchairs. Still, it is reasonable to assume that we should be aware of these things in everyone we are close to, like our spouses, children, siblings, parents, best friends, etc.

 It wouldn’t be nice someday, but I don’t mean it should be. We SHOULD already know this, like how could we possibly not know it?

 Were we sworn to love and honour our spouse all the days of our lives? We may know their ‘things’ so well that every action we take automatically considers them and their needs?

 Until we understand this (like getting it in our bones and soul), our flowers and Chocolate is little more than concert tickets for the deaf.

 The things we want are not what our spouses want (even if they like them). It is essential to consider your spouse’s opinion. Their needs to be considered since they are a person.

 In addition, people want to be taken into consideration

 When friends decide what to do on Friday, they choose an impossible activity to participate in while in a wheelchair. Nobody wants to be the kid in a wheelchair hanging out with his buddies.

 You sit there alone, in your wheelchair, while everyone else has a great time. A wife or mother in 2019 can relate to that metaphor in such a frightening way.

 In the evenings, Dad and Son/ Daughter run off to watch TV, play video games, or text their friends, while mom is left in the kitchen to clear the table, wash the dishes, etc., while everyone else has fun doing what they like.

 It’s like abandoning a kid in a wheelchair to your wife. In other words, your mom is the abandoned friend in the wheelchair.

 ‘I’d like to be considered

 I heard my married friend say that after her husband changed their Valentine’s Day plans without informing her first, causing numerous inconveniences for her that needed to be handled because of the last-minute changes.

 There was a scheduling conflict for her husband. To resolve the issue, he adjusted his schedule.

The change in his schedule caused his wife several problems. That negated all the kind and thoughtful things he had said to her on Valentine’s Day.

 It’s nice to have flowers

  Moreover, flowers serve as a way of demonstrating—as an indication—that you think about people you care about.

 It is nice to receive chocolates, pyjamas, stuffed animals, dinner reservations and jewellery.

 People love getting things, but the majority enjoy receiving thoughtful acts of generosity from those we love and who wish to love us outside of children.

 That’s all there is to it

What Ruins Valentine's Day (and Every Day)
What Ruins Valentine’s Day (and Every Day)

 As a result of being considered – which can also mean being loved, cared for, or honored – we feel good. In other words, when we are not considered, we think DISRESPECTED, abandoned, forgotten, or forgotten about.

 This scenario applies to Valentine’s Day, birthdays, and anniversaries. We have the chance to witness this scenario EVERY DAY. And we do.

 It boils down to this one simple but deceptively complex idea that makes the difference between good relationships and bad ones-between good marriages and bad marriages.

 In your daily life, do you consider the needs of your romantic partner when you say things, do things, or make plans? Your relationship quality and the relative impact of your bouquet on Valentine’s Day depend on it.

Everyone, have an excellent Valentine’s Day. (Including you, single buddies.)