You're just a rebounder if you notice these five signs

You’re just a rebounder if you notice these five signs

15 Apr, 2022 posted by Noah

What could be worse than being someone’s second choice?

 While things are going well between you and this girl, you feel something is off. Even though she loves you, you cannot be sure she’s entirely emotionally available to you. It’s like you’re caught in the middle, unsure whether or not you should move forward with her.

 Maybe because she just ended her long-term relationship. Having just broken up, her saying “yes” to being your girlfriend seems too soon after the breakup.

 Your current relationship is a rebound relationship, which might be hard for you to accept. It hurts their ego when they have to admit this cold-hard truth. In other words, none of us wants to be a “gap filler.”

 Psychology Today explains that a rebound relationship is formed shortly after a romantic breakup – before the feelings about the former partner have been resolved.

 Although I have never experienced a rebound relationship, my best friend has. Here are what I observed in terms of subtle signs to support it.

Even though she no longer lives with him, she still talks about him

You're just a rebounder if you notice these five signs
You’re just a rebounder if you notice these five signs

If you talk about your ex too often, does it become bothersome? In this case, you should be cautious.

You have her now, after all. Yet again, how great does it raise her previous relationship? In any event, griping about it is presently not worth the time, regardless of whether she unequivocally states how great it was.

I once dated a guy who talked non-stop about his ex on our first date, and it was a big turn-off for me. It would always be a rebound relationship if I went on with him.

Please be more like her ex

How does her relationship with you now compare to her past relationship with her ex? If this is the case, she could use you for a rebound.

The first three to six months are usually the best time to start a new relationship because you’re still in the honeymoon phase. Therefore, it’s normal for you to expect that you will have a good time.

It’s a red flag enough if she repeatedly discusses her ex and compares you to him, but you shouldn’t ignore it when it’s the other way around. The “talk” should take place sooner than later at this point to see if she is truly over her ex and ready to be with you.

Please be more like her ex. It’s interesting how we can idolize someone and then pretend that we don’t when we encounter them.

 Why do we do that? We project our ideal onto that person, and when we see them in person, they don’t quite fit the same mold as the person we had imagined.

 I recently experienced that with my ex. He is a fantastic person, but he is pretty different than I expected him to be. I’ve discovered that I’m attracted to people who are different from me.

 It makes me feel comfortable to be with someone who isn’t exactly like me. I’ve also noticed that I’m attracted to more intelligent people than me in my relationships. I think it’s because it’s a challenge to deal with that they know more than me.

 I know that sounds crazy, but I like being with someone more intelligent than me because I can learn a lot from them. I want to be with someone more like me than different when it comes to my relationships.

 I want to be with someone with a similar personality, similar interests, similar values, etc. I’d rather be with someone identical to me rather than different.

Neither she nor her friends or family members know that you are dating

You're just a rebounder if you notice these five signs
You’re just a rebounder if you notice these five signs

Seeing as I am a girl, I know her close friends will know about her new relationship if she genuinely loves you. In general, girls are more open about everything in their love life than guys.

Like this, it would be best if you zeroed in on this detail. You want to bring it up to something like once on the off chance that you have never been presented or don’t have a clue about any of her companions while she generally knows your dearest companions.

It doesn’t matter if you don’t think this is a big deal, then you can ignore it. However, most people in a rebound relationship will try to hide their new relationship just because they aren’t proud of their new partner and still hold on to their ex.

The relationship doesn’t feel appreciated by you

It’s never nice to be in a relationship where your partner always points out your shortcomings.

When you’ve been in a relationship for a long time, it’s easy to take it for granted. 

You know each other so well that the relationship becomes comfortable, and you stop putting effort into it. It’s easy to forget the spark and excitement that drew you together in the first place. 

If you feel like the relationship doesn’t feel appreciated to you, there’s a good chance it’s time to rekindle the flame.

You’ve been dating your partner for a few months, and it’s not going anywhere. You’re not even going out regularly. You both agreed to be exclusive to each other, but you don’t feel appreciated. You want to make it work, but you’re not sure how. 

You feel like you’re doing all the work. You’re the one who’s doing all the text messaging and calling. If it’s not about commitment and love, then what is it? You’re not a mind reader. You want to make it work, but you don’t know how to get the relationship to where you’re both happy. 

You’re not eager to get hitched or anything. However, you feel like you’re on this ride and uncertain where it’s going. You’re not sure if the relationship will last or if you’re wasting your time. You know you’re not the wrong person, but you want to ensure your partner sees it. It’s a two-way street, and you want to be sure your partner feels the same way as you do.